Do you know what scenery you are evaluating

Have you ever stopped and cried out (in your head… or not) “Why am I thinking like this, acting like this, saying these things and why do I keep doing it?”

I have (more often than I would care to admit) and the reason for this is that we don’t know what scenery we are evaluating in our day to day experiences. Let me explain

My friend J and I were talking recently about achieving our potential and blockers to this, and he was describing how a change in his career prospects had caused him to doubt his self-worth.

“I came from being self-made, well known and successful in my industry, and all of a sudden I was an employee with no money. I looked around me at the scenery and evaluated who and what I was, and what I saw brought me down”

I have encountered this situation many times before and know from experience that ‘looking at the scenery to evaluate your worth is dangerous because it is highly likely that we don’t actually know what scenery we are using to evaluate our situations and are therefore misleading ourselves leading us to act or behave in specific ways

In case you missed that

“We more than likely don’t know what scenery we are using to avaluate our situation and are therefore misleading ourselves”

How we evaluate our scenery

When we evaluate the ‘scenery’ there are two influencers involved

  1. The scenery itself

As in J’s case, the scenery he was evaluating was his industry and what had happened to all his peers. As J described

“I looked around at all the people around me, some stayed and were highly successful, others got out and changed completely (like me) and still others went into a downwards spiral”

2. How we interpret the scenery and make decisions about this concerning our own self and worth

From what I have learned about Neuro-programing and our ‘thought’ process it appears the way we take in, process and act on information (the scenery) each moment of our lives is all a product of the data/information we have stored deep in our subconscious memory bank.

Note: I realise this is a very basic explanation of how it works. For an in-depth and detailed explanation I highly recommend looking up Amy Brann, Synaptic Potential who I regard as an authority in the field of Neuroscience.

Unfortunately for us this ‘memory bank’ has been created from the moment we come into the world (consciousness) and developed very strongly over the first 5 years of our lives, forming the foundations of our deep-seated values and beliefs, the way we view the world

The impact of how we evaluate our scenery

In essence, our views, decisions, feelings and actions are being controlled by a secretive, hidden ally.

An integral, authentic part of us? YES;

An ally which we have created and nurtured? YES;

A loyal, well-intentioned ally?YES;

A potentially damaging ally? YES

The danger with this amazing ally is that if we are not aware of the base it is coming from (the need it is trying to protect or fulfil in us) it can cause us to act/think in ways that are not in our best interest. The danger with this is that the response we then get will typically create an emotion and an emotion tied to a belief further ingrains the belief in our subconscious memory. I.e a vicious cycle

How do we manage how we evaluate the scenery?

As I explained to J, our ally is a critical and helpful friend who has nothing but good intentions when it gets involved. Unfortunately, it often operates from information created in a very specific instance, which may no longer be relevant or valid. Therefore once we understand how we evaluate the scenery I have found through working with a coach that practising the following steps is very effective in evaluating the right scenery

  1. Observation: Noticing behaviours and beliefs that show up
  2. Reflection: Looking at the scenery that is causing the behaviour/belief to show
  3. Deep questioning: Asking “Is this the right scenery?” “What am I seeing?” “What am I not seeing?” “What need am I trying to protect or fulfil)
  4. Repositioning: (if need be) reframing the scene in the more up to date and appropriate state

You were created to achieve something awesome, start believing and have fun
S